Last updated 08/01/2025
This is mostly regarding LGBTQI+ people being sexualized for the purposes of sexual gratification, rather than to depict us as objects of contempt.
Blanket warning for anti-LGBTQ+ sentiments and sexual harassment. Some links may also use slurs (reclaimed and otherwise), as well as discuss sexual abuse and assault, hate crimes, and other anti-LGBTQ+ violence.
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Fetishization of the Queer Community by Ash Marquis | Youth OUTright (published in 2021, I think)
LGBT Fetishization: AreTheStraightsOK | Reddit (thread started in July 2020)
Your Assumptions About Black, Queer Masculinity Are Erasing My Asexual Identity by Timinepre Cole | Autostraddle (April 2022)
ALTERSEX: Sex/Gender Slurs And The Alternatives by farorenightclaw | FurAffinity (December 2019, discusses both trans and intersex fetishization; talks about genitalia in some detail)
Prove that it's gay enough. | Jenny Trout (August 2023, discusses how straight people dismiss gay romance in fiction if it isn't sexual)
Separating The Bliss From The Bullshit: Myths About Non-Binary Bisexuals Common In Pornography by Kavz | Gaysi (April 2024, discusses both the lack of nonbinary people in mainstream porn and how bisexuals are frequently portrayed)
2.Women-loving-women portrayed as a fetish for men
The Fetishization of Lesbians and Bisexual Women by Morgan Paul | UMKC (April 2014)
The Fetishisation Of Lesbian Relationships In Cinema And Pop Culture by Rhea Gangavkar | Feminism In India (November 2020)
Not Yours | Robot Hugs (May 2015, contains mildly NSFW images)
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Porn Will Not Help You Understand Women In Same Sex Relationships by Mahika Banerji | Feminism In India (September 2017, addresses racism and harmful beauty standards, contains a mildly NSFW image)
The Fetishization of Lesbians and Modern Culture by Rose Chapman | Her Campus (September 2021, mentions sexual violence and specific abusive behavior by a male film director, uses a derogatory term for sex workers)
How Lesbian Artists Reclaim the Body in a World That Reduces Them to Sex by Marissa Higgins | Slate (December 2016)
OPINION: Stop sexualising queer women! by Charlotte Summers | DIVA (March 2019)
The fetishisation or hyper-sexualisation of lesbians and queer women by Rebecca Rogerson | The F- Word (March 2022, mentions racism and transantagonism, briefly talks about sexism in gay spaces)
The Problem With the Sexualization of Lesbians by Marissa Higgins | Huff Post (June 2013)
Fear or Fetish? The Fetishisation of Lesbians in Cold War America by Jamie Jenkins | History Matters (January 2021, discusses the idea of "turning" lesbians through heterosexual sex)
The #LforLove Project: The Lesbian Is Not Just A Body by Sneha Kumar | Feminism In India (May 2018)
The sexualization of queer women in media by Anya Josephs | Spark Movement (November 2012)
Minus the City: The Fetishization of Queer Sexuality by Graci Galvez | The Colgate Maroon-News (February 2020)
Why Liam Payne's Both Ways fetishises bisexual women by Meg Murphy | DIVA (December 2019, author does not appear to be the same person as the Meghan Murphy involved in TERF movements)
The Fetishization of Queer Women | EQUL (July 2021)
Fetishization: the unspoken terror faced by the queer community by Tristan Leach | The Rider News (April 2022)
The Fetishization of Queer Women in Modern Media by Hayley Morris | The REVIVAL Zine (February 2020)
[video] Performative Bisexuality: Y'all Not Tired? | Tee Noir (November 2020)
'Best friends 99% of the time': TikTok trend called out for fetishizing queer women by Tricia Crimmins | Daily Dot (April 2022)
3. Transgender people
Be aware many of these entries contain explicit talk about genitals and how they feature into cis people's assumptions about trans people and their bodies.
Putting it in perspective: Is it wrong to fetishize trans people? by Adrian Silbernagel | Queer Kentucky (August 2019, mentions sexual racism)
Trans Women and Femmes Speak Out About Being Fetishized by Eva Reign | Them (July 2018)
I'm a porn star asking the industry to stop using the term 'sh*male' by Chelsea Poe | Cashmere Magazine (December 2014)
The guy I'm dating is really into trans women. Is it love – or a fetish? by Kai Cheng Thom | Xtra* (June 2019, mentions sexual racism and stereotypes of trans women as predators)
Beware the Chasers: “Admirers” Who Harass Trans People by Christin Scarlett Milloy | Slate (October 2014)
"No cis guys" – no thank you | a gentleman and a scholar (November 2011)
The Tedium of Trans Sex Work by Sarah | Tits And Sass (March 2016, discusses hostility towards sex work)
My Trans Identity Is Not a Fetish | Huff Post (April 2016, mentions fetishization of Asian women as well)
Sexualized desexualization is trans women being un-datable and un-fuckable, yet trans women are a mainstream porn genre. | Tumblr thread started by femgineer (reblog from July 2015)
Is my partner fetishizing me? by nat | Medium (February 2016)
[video] Can Straight Men Be Attracted To Trans Women? | Mia Mulder (February 2020)
Available on YouTube (which is free) and Nebula (which requires a suscription)
I'm a cis guy looking to date a trans woman. How do I start? by Kai Cheng Thom | Xtra* (June 2020)
what is it about me that makes you think i'd want to do either of those things? | splendidland (April 2017)
"Being Talked to Like I Was a Sex Toy, Like Being Transgender Was Simply for the Enjoyment of Someone Else": Fetishization and Sexualization of Transgender and Nonbinary Individuals | Spring Link (March 2021, this is a study examining trans people's reactions to being fetishized; most of the quotes are from white people, which is acknowledged; mentions intimate partner violence)
Why fetishizing trans men is offensive | Diary of a Lipstick Terrorist (August 2012, mentions sexualization and fetishization of POC)
No, trans sex dolls are not empowering by Alex V Green | Xtra* (January 2020, discusses discrimination against sex workers)
I Am The Transsexual Your Boyfriend Wants to Be With: On Thought Catalog's Transphobia Problem | TransAdvocate (discusses a cis woman dehumanizing trans women and treating them as unworthy of desire)
Deeply transphobic ad in 'Cyberpunk 2077' represents everything wrong with cyberpunk by Ana Valens | Daily Dot (June 2019)
if you call a trans character a 'tr*p' or an 'futa' | Tumblr thread started by spitblaze (November 2018)
Chalice Can't Contain Our Hope: How Alters' Marketing Alienates by Alexis Sergio | Women Write About Comics (January 2017)
'Transfixed' says it's a 'breakthrough' series, but it still fetishizes trans bodies by Ana Valens | Cashmere Magazine (May 2019)
....the problem here is not that some relatively mundane thing is being framed as freakishly perverted | David J. Prokopetz (June 2024)
4. intersex people
Be aware many of these entries contain explicit talk about genitals and how they show up in misconceptions about intersex bodies.
On Porn | An Intersex Blog (July 2024)
Envisioning African Intersex: Challenging Colonial and Racist Legacies in South African Medicine by Amanda Lock Swarr (2023, discusses how scientific racism and colonialism intertwine with intersex-antagonism)
NieR Replicant Daredevil achievement grossly fetishizes one of its characters by Aimee Hart | Gayming Mag (April 2021)
Just a friendly note for people writing Omegaverse | roachliquid (August 2024)
with words like 'altersex' existing for fantasy bodies that are decidedly not intersex... | ancient-futch-painted-dog (February 2020)
Futanari is not intersex | An Intersex Blog (July 2024)
the itchio intersex tag | An Intersex Blog (March 2025)
5. Men-loving-men portrayed as a fetish for women
Gay romance novels are not queer romance novels | Brandon Taylor (June 2016, discusses how M/M romance and erotica use sexual stereotypes, mentions racism, misogyny, and other prejudices)
Like, its [sic] not really rocket science. | bigskydreaming (January 2017)
this is so Bad that I had to comment | Tumblr thread (January 2017)
Pro-"Gay For You" Arguments In The Romance Genre (And Why They&aposre All Still Bi/Pan Erasure) | Jenny Trout (September 2016)
...maybe gay, bisexual and queer men don't exist for the consumption of straight women????| gayserblast, with an add-on by turnabouttroubadour (July 2016)
Calling gay sex sinful is literally conservative rhetoric | cloudchild94 (posted in or before March 2016)
i dont [sic] want girls sexualising mlm relationships anymore. at all | Tumblr thread (February 2017)
Ladies, Is It Feminist To Mostly Write/Read About Men? | Stitch's Media Mix (October 2023, challenges the notion that M/M romance and erotica are uniquely feminist or progressive compared to any romance involving female characters)
Not just slash fandom, but the m/m romance market | bigskydreaming (August 2020, mentions racism)
On The Fetishisation Of Gay Men By Women In The Slash Community by Kiri Van Santen | The Mary Sue (January 2015)
Male on Male Fiction: Representation or Fetishization? by Alexis Garcia-Ruiz | Your Mag (August 2020)
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